Remember the days when couples had separate rooms or beds? I never thought I'd be one of "those" couples but I'm afraid it may be in my immediate future. Let me explain.
I love my husband. I love "private" time with him but when it comes time to sleep - neither of us are touchy, cuddly people. That's for awake time. This is why we bought a king size bed when we bought our home. We wanted room for each to be comfortable and also room for our, at that time, child to be in bed too. Great. However, upon getting the bed home and after sleeping on it we found it to be quite hard. Like, seriously firm. I couldn't sleep in the bed during my pregnancies as it just killed my back & hips.
So about 3 months ago I asked if we could bring up our old, but comfy queen bed and take the king down. I pleaded with hubby that it was killing my back and that I'd rather sleep on the couch than in bed. He agreed to move it and ah.....the comfy queen was back in our room. I enjoyed sleeping more and found I didn't wake with such pains in my lower back as I had previously.
Come to find out, hubby really disliked the queen. He couldn't seem to notice a difference in comfiness (OK, this is amazing in itself!) and he really disliked the size. Apparently I get pretty cozy when I sleep and thus, take up however much room I feel like taking up and therefore, don't give him as much room. And the other thing is that we now 4 boys climbing up in bed with us and the queen did leave a lot to be desired in room for us all.
So, this week I agreed to change the beds BACK. We painstakingly set the queen up in the basement and brought the king back to our room. It's a beautiful bed. Rich dark cherry wood in a sleigh bed style. It sits so high off the ground I almost need a step stool to get in it. It's gorgeous. And it's still hard as a wood plank. Argh! It's only been 2 nights and I woke this morning in excruciating pain in my lower back. The kind when you move just so it catches your breath and you exhale an audible grunt. Yup, it's back and my back is suffering. What to do??? We are not in a position to pay for a brand new king mattress.
I've purchased MANY items hoping it would help but goodness, it's just SUPER firm. I've tried a feather bed on it, eggshells, memory foam, mattress pad and ALL of them together and it really doesn't help. How IS that possible? I think it's the 9th wonder of the world as how this bed can look so beautiful and be so uncomfortable.
So what's a girl to do? I can't function at 100% with a back that makes it hard to bend over or even shift my weight without causing me to make noise of pain. So my options are: a) endure & suffer; b) sleep in the basement on my queen bed; c) sleep on the couch; or d) sleep on the bottom bunk of my son's bunk beds.
Is a marriage in trouble if you don't share the same bed???? Will hubby agree to buy a new mattress if wife isn't in bed anymore???? Didn't those old shows like Leave It To Beaver have Ward & June in separate beds? Maybe we can make "dates" for "those" times and let me have my own bedroom in the basement for sleeping. Oy, who knew that a bed could cause so much distress!!!!!!
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I think it all depends on the couple. My significant other and I realized a long time ago that if anyone (meaning me) was going to get good sleep, we'd have to sleep in different rooms. There are times when I'm a little sad about it and wish it didn't have to be that way, but honestly, you're sleeping. It's not like you're sharing quality time!
We make our "dates", and some nights the drive to snuggle overrides my need to sleep (although sometimes in the middle of the night, the drive to sleep takes over and I'm off to "my" room). On weekends, if I wake early, you know those times you open one eye and the clock says 4:30, I always crawl into bed with him, snooze a little, then we get to wake up together.
I imagine it could be a little different with little ones around, trying to explain. But I think yours are young enough that it wouldn't throw them. I say try it. Who knows, maybe he'll miss the company and buy that bed! But, you can't get upset if he doesn't.
Thanks for the words. I have decided that I'm not going to be upset with him if we don't get a new mattress. Thanks for sharing and who knows, we'll see where this story goes.... :)
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